Protecting Your Peace From a Difficult Ex
Some exes fade quietly into the past. Others seem determined to stay loud in your present, through constant messages, manufactured crises, guilt, or open...
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Boundaries and Your Former Spouse
How to Stop Checking Your Ex's Social Media
You told yourself you would not look. Then it is 11 p.m., the house is quiet, and your thumb is already on his profile before you have decided anything. You...
Should You Stay Friends With Your Ex After Divorce?
"We're going to stay friends." It sounds mature. It sounds kind. Sometimes it is genuinely the right call, and sometimes it is a soft way of refusing to let...
How to Reach Indifference About Your Ex
People say the opposite of love is hate. When it comes to an ex, that is not quite right. Hate is still a leash. As long as you are furious with him, he...
When You Still Have Feelings for Your Ex After Divorce
The divorce is final. The paperwork is signed. And your heart, stubborn thing, did not get the memo. You still miss him some nights. You still feel a pull...
How to Communicate With a Difficult Ex
You cannot control how your ex behaves. If you could, you probably would not be divorced. What you can control is the structure you put around your contact...
What to Say to an Ex Who Tries to Provoke You
Some exes fight to win. Others fight to keep you engaged, because as long as you are arguing, you are still connected, and connection is what they are really...
How to Stop Letting Your Ex Get Under Your Skin
He does the thing. A pointed text, a backhanded comment at pickup, a story he tells the mutual friends that you know is not quite true. And instantly you are...
No Contact After Divorce: When and How
No contact sounds simple until you try it. You block a number at midnight, feel a rush of relief, and by morning you have unblocked it "just in case." The...